BENEFITS OF FATHERHOOD

                                              

A father’s influence goes to the fourth generation after him. Whitney Houston’s parents Emily (Cissy) and John Huston divorced when she was at Kindergarten. Together with lover, Bobby Brown, Whitney smoked crack in the presence of their five year old daughter, Bobbi Kristine at Twenty Two, died of drug abuse, her mother Whitney died at 48 on similar grounds. Great careers and more importantly, great lives lost due to weak fatherhood.

While there is little you can do about your ancestors, there is something that you can do about your descendants. One thing that prevents a man from being a good father is that he hasn’t completed being a boy. To be in children’s memory tomorrow, you have to be in their lives today. Having children doesn’t make you a father. Raising  them does.

There are many of us who were raised up in unstable families but we don’t have to pass it on to our children. We can choose to shield their emotions from our disputes as adults. To a large extent, you are a product of your early relationship.

 

Unstable parents create insecure Children. Stable parents raise stable Children. Children need affection (hugs, kisses), attention (Listening) and affirmation (positive words), everyday . When a man loves his wife, it creates security and stability. The best gift a father can give to his Children is to love their Mother. Children learn how to handle feelings loses failure and conflicts at home.

Regrettably, parenting can neither be delegated nor suspended for a while as we work for the ring of fame and fortune . The growth of Children is irreversible.  Like a young tree, it takes the bends directed by the gardener , so is the life of a child . You can’t pick it from where you left after you reach at the top in your career pursuits. It’s always easier to model young boys than to rehabilitate grown men.

If you invest in your Child you don’t have to invest for your child. Children require presence not presents. No amount of gifts and meeting financial obligations can replace your personal presence. Any written will can be torn in a few years after the demise of the writer of the will. The only sure inheritance that you can leave behind is the investment you make in your child not for your child.